It is important to try an be aware of what your expectations are with respect to having a baby – what it is going to be like, how they will fit into your life, how you will feel towards the baby and cope.
It is difficult to try and imagine what life might be like before you have become a parent, and whether you are aware of them or not, you are likely to have built up some ideas of what you see or expect the experience of becoming a parent will be like. Often this image is reinforced by the information and images around us.
The information given about what to expect in pregnancy and when caring for my baby was very rose tinted an left me very unprepared.
Often you will focus on reading material, advertising and other communications that will lead you to form impressions of life with a baby, but these may not always be realistic. This leads many parents to later ask the question “Why didn’t anyone tell me it would be like this?”
Looking back, I had a completely different picture of motherhood in my mind. Reading all those books and magazines whilst pregnant and watching others I thought I had a pretty good idea of what motherhood would be like. By the time my second child came along – my expectations were quite different.
The reality of being a parent may be very different from what you expect, so be aware of what expectations you may already have, or may be currently developing (possibly without even consciously realising it).
A list of common expectations – and what the reality might be, can be found here.